Seeing Things From Someone Else’s Point of View

Seeing Things From Someone Else’s Point of View

 

Imagining a situation from someone else’s point of view is a powerful skill to develop.

It builds empathy and emotional intelligence and helps the person you are talking to feel that you understand them.

All too often people in business only approach things from their perspective and don’t think about the perspective of others.

So, for the next week take a few moments before you meet with a client, your boss, a colleague, someone you lead or even a family member or friend and ask yourself some of the following questions:

  • Is what we are going to discuss as important for this person as it is for me?
  • What outcome could they want?
  • What questions might they ask?
  • How am I coming across to this person, how do I sound and look to them?
  • How am I making them feel?

By taking a minute to do this, people will feel that you really understand them.

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Emotional Intelligence – the most important trait of successful leaders

Emotional Intelligence – the most important trait of successful leaders

 

Being emotionally intelligent is without a doubt, one of, if not the most important trait in being an effective leader. Various studies throughout the past decade have shown that having a leader who is able to get results by tapping into both the positive and negative emotions of others, whilst being acutely aware of their own, is more likely to retain staff and improve employee relationships than anything else.

So, as a leader who wants to be as effective as possible, ask yourself, how do you measure up in terms of your emotional intelligence?

Charisma – are you born with it?

Have you ever worked with a very charismatic leader? If so, then it’s likely that almost everyone in your company liked, trusted and admired this person.

People listened when they talk, colleagues supported their ideas, and talented people wanted to join the team. In short, everyone wanted to be around this person!

In behavioural profiling of many different systems, this is referred to as Extraversion. Sometimes it’s something you’re born with. However, this isn’t always the case

Developing Awareness to Listen Effectively

Is it always the Patient types that can do this?

In behavioural analysis such as PDA, we know that it’s always the quiet, steady, methodical types that have the best listening skills. Why should this be? Invariably it is because their minds aren’t racing at a thousand miles an hour, they can focus on what is being said and calmly respond.

So as listening is so important in life, as in business, what stops everyone from doing this?

Active Mindful Listening

Developing Awareness to Listen Effectively

Is it always the Patient types that can do this?

In behavioural analysis such as PDA, we know that it’s always the quiet, steady, methodical types that have the best listening skills. Why should this be? Invariably it is because their minds aren’t racing at a thousand miles an hour, they can focus on what is being said and calmly respond.

So as listening is so important in life, as in business, what stops everyone from doing this?

Persuasiveness and Influence – Charismatic Leader

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Have you ever worked with a very charismatic leader? If so, then it’s likely that almost everyone in your company liked, trusted and admired this person.

People listened when they talk, colleagues supported their ideas, and talented people wanted to join the team. In short, everyone wanted to be around this person!

3 Steps to knowing your level of emotional intelligence

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The more we are each able to be aware of our own strengths and weaknesses, manage our own emotions, be willing to put effort in to achieve success, have sensitivity when it comes to others and be willing and able to successfully interact with each other, the more well-adjusted and productive we become.

The Art of Positive Thinking – Part 3

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Where you have used Rational Thinking to challenge incorrect negative thinking, it’s often useful to use rational, positive thoughts and affirmations to counter them. It’s also useful to look at the situation and see if there are any opportunities that are offered by it.

The Art of Positive Thinking – Part 2

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The next step in dealing with negative thinking is to challenge the negative thoughts that you identified using the Thought Awareness technique. Look at every thought you wrote down and rationally challenge it. Ask yourself whether the thought is reasonable, and does it stand up to fair scrutiny?

As an example, by analysing your Stress Diary you might identify that you have frequently had the following negative thoughts:

  • Feelings of inadequacy.
  • Worries that your performance in your job will not be good enough.
  • An anxiety that things outside your control will undermine your efforts.
  • Worries about other people’s reactions to your work.

 

The Art of Positive Thinking – Make Stress a Thing of the Past

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Quite often, the way we feel about a situation comes from our perception of it. Often that perception is right, but sometimes it isn’t. For instance, sometimes we’re unreasonably harsh with ourselves, or we can jump to wrong conclusion about people’s motives. This can cause problems and make us unhappy, and it can lead us to be unfair to others.

Thought Awareness, Rational Thinking, and Positive Thinking are simple tools that help you turn this around.