Understanding the Law of Attraction – Part 1

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A lot has been said about the so-called Law of Attraction, being given all kinds of different names such as The Secret and The Teachings of Abraham.

But at its heart, it is simply the power of the mind, of good thinking, and creating the right energy and vibrations.

“Your life is a reflection of the way you think. If you change the way you think, you change your whole life.”

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“We become what we think about”

So, reflect – what do you think about? For example, if you’re scared of failure, you have subconsciously planted in your brain a though about failure, so what is the likely outcome?

“When you rehearse failure in your mind, you meet failure in your life. Be aware of what your thoughts are replaying.”

This has so many implications in business, and particularly in sport.

The best advice I ever got was to surround myself with people created a very positive vibe I could not help but be influenced by.

“Surround yourself with energy that takes you up. Be around people who make you feel good. They will help you manifest what you want.”

Surround yourself with: The open-minded The Passionate The motivated The grateful The honest The loving The loyal

Avoid toxic people at all costs, their bitterness and resentment can infect others

Be very honest with yourself: what vibration are you giving off?

“If you’re not seeing the results you want in your life then you’re not offering the Universe a vibration that matches your desires.”

Sometimes you must start by manifesting small things. Results bring in confidence which eliminate doubts, which creates more results.

Stop fighting life by constantly complaining about it. Go with its flow by appreciating life the way it is.

With a negative mind-set you only see negative things happen, yet positive things happen all the time. Alter your state of mind to see them.

The best advice is this:

Stay focused. To be successful, focus on the goal, not the obstacle.

In part 2 we will look at attitudes and beliefs

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The Mind controls the Body

clarity certainty imageThe body responds to what the subconscious mind is telling it.

Ways to feel good:

  1. Walk tall, imaging a steel rod going up your spins and up the back of your neck. It is impossible to feel bad in this position, you’ll feel powerful.
  2. Smile, it not only affects the physiology of your face, it lightens your whole mood
  3. Breathe deeply, fill the diaphragm, it relaxes you instantly
  4. Recall great experiences, when you were incredibly happy or felt very successful, the body will replicate those feelings
  5. Engage with others, enjoy their company, let their good feelings wash over you
  1. Try a random act of kindness, you’ll feel a lot better for the reaction you get
  1. Dress in clothes to suit your intended mood, smart or bright or comfortable whatever will create the desired feeling

 

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Simple Steps to Emotional Intelligence

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Awareness:  Tuning into emotional data.

Management:  Responding intentionally.

Direction:  Leading purposefully.

Emotional Intelligence is simply defined as the ability to balance rational thought to emotionality.

The brain has a left side, which controls rational thought, and a right side which controls emotions. It is common in most people that one predominates over the other through inherent patterns of thinking to respond to situations. You can take action to change your thinking. Emotionally intelligent people have a balance between them that allows them high levels of self-control.

So, if there is a situation that has angered, or frustrated or bitterly disappointed you:

  • Engage rational thought: what’s really going on here? Why am I reacting this way? Is it helping the situation? Is it making me feel bad?
  • Once this rational process takes place, studies have shown it takes only 6 seconds for the mind to calm

Reflect on emotional situations, how would on reflection you judge your response?

Powerful?

Defensive?

Helpless?

If it’s the last 2, was that helpful to the situation?

How is your mood affecting others? Is your mood exacerbating the situation?

Honest reflective thought can create a self-awareness that allows your brain to identify when a similar situation may be about to happen again. The greater your emotional intelligence the more you will have an inner process that will deal with effectively.

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Seeing Things From Someone Else’s Point of View

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Imagining a situation from someone else’s point of view is a powerful skill to develop.

It builds empathy and emotional intelligence and helps the person you are talking to feel that you understand them.

All too often people in business only approach things from their perspective and don’t think about the perspective of others.

So, for the next week take a few moments before you meet with a client, your boss, a colleague, someone you lead or even a family member or friend and ask yourself some of the following questions:

  • Is what we are going to discuss as important for this person as it is for me?
  • What outcome could they want?
  • What questions might they ask?
  • How am I coming across to this person, how do I sound and look to them?
  • How am I making them feel?

By taking a minute to do this, people will feel that you really understand them.

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Emotional Intelligence – the most important trait of successful leaders

Emotional Intelligence – the most important trait of successful leaders

 

Being emotionally intelligent is without a doubt, one of, if not the most important trait in being an effective leader. Various studies throughout the past decade have shown that having a leader who is able to get results by tapping into both the positive and negative emotions of others, whilst being acutely aware of their own, is more likely to retain staff and improve employee relationships than anything else.

So, as a leader who wants to be as effective as possible, ask yourself, how do you measure up in terms of your emotional intelligence?

Charisma – are you born with it?

Have you ever worked with a very charismatic leader? If so, then it’s likely that almost everyone in your company liked, trusted and admired this person.

People listened when they talk, colleagues supported their ideas, and talented people wanted to join the team. In short, everyone wanted to be around this person!

In behavioural profiling of many different systems, this is referred to as Extraversion. Sometimes it’s something you’re born with. However, this isn’t always the case

Developing Awareness to Listen Effectively

Is it always the Patient types that can do this?

In behavioural analysis such as PDA, we know that it’s always the quiet, steady, methodical types that have the best listening skills. Why should this be? Invariably it is because their minds aren’t racing at a thousand miles an hour, they can focus on what is being said and calmly respond.

So as listening is so important in life, as in business, what stops everyone from doing this?

Active Mindful Listening

Developing Awareness to Listen Effectively

Is it always the Patient types that can do this?

In behavioural analysis such as PDA, we know that it’s always the quiet, steady, methodical types that have the best listening skills. Why should this be? Invariably it is because their minds aren’t racing at a thousand miles an hour, they can focus on what is being said and calmly respond.

So as listening is so important in life, as in business, what stops everyone from doing this?

Persuasiveness and Influence – Charismatic Leader

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Have you ever worked with a very charismatic leader? If so, then it’s likely that almost everyone in your company liked, trusted and admired this person.

People listened when they talk, colleagues supported their ideas, and talented people wanted to join the team. In short, everyone wanted to be around this person!

3 Steps to knowing your level of emotional intelligence

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The more we are each able to be aware of our own strengths and weaknesses, manage our own emotions, be willing to put effort in to achieve success, have sensitivity when it comes to others and be willing and able to successfully interact with each other, the more well-adjusted and productive we become.