The more we are each able to be aware of our own strengths and weaknesses, manage our own emotions, be willing to put effort in to achieve success, have sensitivity when it comes to others and be willing and able to successfully interact with each other, the more well-adjusted and productive we become.
There are three key pursuits for learning emotional intelligence.
The first is Know yourself
Becoming aware increasing self-awareness and recognising patterns and feelings hope you understand what makes you tick and is the first step to growth.
Recognise patterns in yourself, thereby enhancing emotional literacy
Become more aware, notice what you do
Identify WHAT needs to change in your life
The second is Choose yourself
Becoming intentional building self-management and self-direction, allows you to consciously choose your thoughts feelings and actions as against reacting unconsciously
Consequential thinking plays a big part in how you think about yourself
Become more intentional, by doing what you mean allows you to proactively respond to emotional setbacks Supplies the HOW so you can put change in action
The third step to growth is Give yourself
Becoming purposeful aligning your choices with your larger sense of purpose unlocks your full power and potential. It comes from using empathy and principal decision-making to increase wisdom
Increase empathy, pursue noble goals, become more purposeful, do it for a reason, remind you and those around you why change is important.
The deliberate and habitual ways in which we manage and change how we feel through our actions is often known in psychology as self-regulation. Sometimes you may need to dampen the intensity of emotions to enable you to focus more on your situation, other times you may want to maintain a positive or productive mood.
There are three levels to this emotional self-regulation: firstly
awareness, secondly surface acting and thirdly deep acting.
Some common ways to self-regulate your thoughts:
- thinking of what’s going well
- thinking of others worse off
- just having faith
- just accepting
Confidence comes from being really clear about yourself – the clearer you are, the more certain the outcome.