…Follow these Golden Rules

HappyMany people think happiness, both professional and personal, is based on having a bigger house, nicer car, larger income.

It’s all about better, faster, higher, more.
Yet the happiest people I know focus a lot more on what they do, not on what they have.

They see a great outcome as a wonderful by-product of a personal journey and not a primary goal.

In short, their perspectives and beliefs are different.

Here are things the happiest people DON’T do:

  1. Don’t compare yourself to other people.No matter how successful you are, there will always be someone who is more successful.No matter how big your business gets, there will always be a bigger business.

    Unless you’re Serena Williams or Stephen Hawking or Richard Branson, there will always someone better or smarter or richer.

    To be happy, only compare yourself to the person you were yesterday – and to the person you hope someday to become.

    You may never be the best, but you will gain incredible satisfaction from being the best you that you can possibly be.

    That’s all you can control – and all that really matters.

  2. Don’t feel you need to succeed on your own.Solo success is rewarding.
    Achieving something with another person or a team is fantastic.Not only do you feel good about yourself, you feel great about other people – and you create a connection that can last a lifetime.

    And if you do fail, you fail together, which makes that failure a lot easier to take and provides the support to help you try again.

  3. Don’t ignore an obvious source of fun.When you were a child, you sometimes ran simply for the joy of running. You jumped and rolled and skipped because it felt good.Without thinking, you used your body as a way to celebrate being alive.

    Now you don’t.

    Try something for me. Ride a bike. Or jump on a trampoline.

    No doubt, it’s a little awkward now, but it’s still really fun.

    Or swim, or play a game, or take a long walk.

    I know you’ll realise you’re no longer young, but you’ll also find out you’re not as old as you think.

    That realisation alone will make you happier and, in time, will help you see the world and your place in it in a different and better way.

  4. Don’t be desperate for luck.Why?The things we earn are infinitely more gratifying.

    If you saved up to buy your first car, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

    If you worked and saved and finally had enough to buy your car, you appreciated it.

    You took care of it. It was yours, both practically and emotionally.

    If you were given a car, great but you didn’t really feel anything.

    (Except possibly gratitude.)

    If you want to wish for something, wish for the strength and perseverance to earn the things you want.

    Don’t wait for luck to bring you that enabling client; work hard to land that enabling client.

    That way, you’ll not only enjoy the destination, you’ll appreciate and be fulfilled by the journey.

  5. Don’t be afraid of being afraid.Nothing beats how you feel immediately after you put a fear aside and take the plunge.And that feeling lingers for a long time.

    Think about the speech you dreaded giving; immediately after, even if you bombed, you felt a sense of relief and even exhilaration.

    You did it!

    Facing a fear makes you feel alive.

    The more alive you feel, the happier you will be.

    Pick a small fear and stare it down.

    I promise you’ll feel awesome afterward.

    Keep doing it and, in time, you’ll open yourself up to new experiences, new sensations, new friends

    And, a richer, more fulfilling life.

  6. Don’t forget to be happy for other people.Don’t wish someone else had gotten the recognition they deserved.Don’t someday regret not having let people know how you felt, how you cared, or how much you appreciated them.

    The act of recognition is just as fulfilling as the receipt.

    Make someone else feel good and you instantly feel good, too.

    Best of all, you can do something good for someone else and the joy you feel will never, ever diminish.

  7. Don’t act against your values.Few things create greater trauma and stress than when what we do doesn’t match what we value.Pick three things you value most.

    You might value pride, or sincerity, or faith, or family, or cooperation, or adventure, or camaraderie, or humility, or independence – the list is endless.

    Pick three.

    Then determine how much of your time – and how much of your money – is spent on those values.

    The more time you spend fostering and honouring your values, the happier you will be.

    Live your values and you can’t help but be happy and more joyful – because in those moments, you are exactly who you truly wish to be.

  8. Be YourselfEveryone wears armour!The armour that protects but in time also destroys.

    The armour we wear is primarily forged by success.

    Every accomplishment adds an additional layer of protection from vulnerability.

    In fact, when we feel particularly insecure, we unconsciously strap on more armour so we feel less vulnerable.

    Armour protects us when we’re unsure, tentative, or at a perceived disadvantage.

    It says, “That’s OK. I may not be good at this but I’m really good at that”.

    Over time, it also encourages us to narrow our focus to our strengths so we can stay safe.

    The more armour we build up, the more we can hide our weaknesses and failings – from others and from ourselves.

    Take off your armour.

    Sure, it’s scary.

    But it’s also liberating, because then you get to be the person you really are and, in time, start to really like the person you really are.

    Which is the surest road to happiness.

 

 

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